For whatever reason FormSpring Me has decided NOT to email me when I get a new question. So the following question is SIX DAYS old!! I’m so sorry it took me so long to answer these
Question #2: What do you think about the need for safewords in BDSM?
As a slave this really wasn’t my decision to make, thankfully Master asked my opinion though and then agreed with me when I gave it to him. I think they’re necessary. Especially for new couples and especially for people new to BDSM. Until you’ve learned your slave’s limits. Even for couples who have been together for a while I would suggest a safeword (if permitted to give my opinion) due to the fact that things do tend to go wrong sometimes.
Master has a safeword, a signal and a color code in place. He asks me during a scene what color I am, if I say green it means everything is fine, keep going. If I say yellow it means I’m in pain, but it’s nothing too bad. But red means I’m close to using the safeword. He chose this so that he can learn my limits as we go, his hope is that eventually he won’t have to ask, he’ll be able to read me well enough to know them. The signal is for when I am gagged. It’s actually for social situations as well though. There will be times where either Master or I become uncomfortable in a social situation (neither of us handle too many people well and I don’t get along with some of my family members so well) so the signal is there for us to let the other know we need a break or to get away. As Master, if he uses the signal then I am to take that as his cue to get the attention off of him so that he can take a break from people. As slave, if I use the signal it lets Master know that I’m in need of an escape. He will then decide if he wants to step in and relieve me of whatever tension there is or have me handle it on my own. (I honestly don’t see myself needing that though unless I’m around my sister who drives me up a wall sometimes. He is fully aware of this and is more than ready to step in if I use the signal around her.) I have yet to use my safeword or the signal, but I enjoy knowing that it’s there just in case.
As a slave, I have no limits. Master owns me, he may do with me as he pleases.
I move in 3 weeks!! I can not wait!! I’m mostly excited about all the sex Master and I will be having, lol. I’m quite the nymphomaniac. I like “solving my problems” with sex. But I’m monogamous as hell too. When I’m frustrated, or upset, or in need of extra cuddling or…. you name it, sex is how I deal with that. The problem was that my old partners never seemed to satisfy me, in any way. They never wanted as much sex as I did and the times we did have sex it left me without orgasm. Sex with Master is different. He has gotten me to orgasm every single time we’ve had sex (and more than once at that!) He is just as horny as I am, all day long. We match each other so well in that respect. So that is what I am looking forward to the most, sex any time he wants it and as often as I can offer it!
What I am nervous about is his family. I already like them all so much, I just hope they like me too. Obviously they don’t know about the BDSM aspects of our lives so that’s something we’ll be keeping under wraps.
Thanks for asking me questions!! Again I’m so sorry it took so long to answer these! Please don’t let that deter you from asking more though! I’ll be checking my formspring inbox every day (or at least every other day) from now on though!